Loneliness

Loneliness, Alienation and Isolation

We all have a need to belong to something, a family, a group or something outside of ourselves, connected to the outer world and if this basic need is not met, we can feel lonely. We may think we are independent, but deep down we need to feel connected to others, especially people we feel able to share our interests, passions, ideas, experiences and values with. Being with others affects us, as being in contact with others, having genuine conversations, we get to know ourselves too. Some of us put up walls of protection against being hurt or rejected. This can lead to feelings of low self-esteem, lack of confidence and eventually a sense of inner emptiness or hollowness.

However, we know that we can be surrounded by people, yet still feel lonely. We may want to be in the company of others, yet struggle to be in our own company, or in our silence, not being in touch with our own worth, not really having a good relationship with ourselves. We may struggle with feelings of anxiety, meaninglessness and a sense of fulility. Counselling and psychotherapy can help with these issues.

Some people experience loneliness deeply, especially when they are grieving an aspect of their lives, feeling lonely in their inner pain, empty, alienated and isolated. Difficult and painful rejections from our past may compound our sense of alienation and isolation. This sense of being different can start in childhood and follow us around like a shadow. These painful and isolating experiences can be explored in the counselling and psychotherapy and it can be talked about what they mean to you. Counselling and psychotherapy can support you in overcoming your loneliness, alienation and isolation.

We also have a need to be deeply connected to ourselves, getting to know ourselves, learning to like ourselves and enjoying our own company or favourite activities. Some of es may well struggle with what to do with ourselves, feeling at a loss when alone, experiencing our loneliness as if we have a hole in our soul. It is valuable to reflect upon this in the counselling, helping to support you in staying in touch with who you are, living truthfully and being true to who you are at your core.

Feeling lonely, separate, alienated and isolated or disconnected from the world may point to existential anxiety and concerns. People sometimes experience deep loneliness or sadness relating to their very existence – that we are – we may have an existential need to belong or be part of something bigger than just our own selves. What this means for each person can be shared and explored in the counselling and psychotherapy.

We may explore your own needs, how to know and nurture yourself, care for yourself, so that you begin to belong more solidly to yourself, knowing who you are, where you come from and where you are going, in your own structure, anchored and grounded in who you are with your own reference points, alive in the world, your separateness and identity, taking ownership and responsibility for yourself, grounded in body and soul, in your inner being, living in ther moment and free to walk your own path in your own authority and agency.